DISCIPLINING A PARENT'S HEART

"Why do I sometimes get angry and not at other times?  Because I've noticed that it's not really related to my daughter's behavior."

Come along to the Thursday Moms Group tomorrow as we discuss Chapter 3 of our study, 'Disciplining a parent's heart' based on James 4:1-10.  In it the authors share "the most important thing I've learned in my years as a parent.  The biggest obstacle to good discipline is my own selfish heart."

We will look at some of the wrong motives for discipline such as the desire for a quiet life, the desire for respect or appreciation, a fear of being embarrassed, wanting to have our own way or be in control, and wanting our children to be 'a success'.  Then we will discuss how we can discipline out of love, with a focus on God and His glory.

Here are a few questions for reflection as we prepare for this week's study:

• Think about the last time you got mad with your children.  What did you want in that moment?

• Think of a time when your discipline was effective and think of a time when it was ineffective.  What made the difference?  What was going on in your heart on each occasion?

• Here are some idolatrous desires that can skew your discipline.  To which are you most prone?  The desire for a quiet life, appreciation from your children, the respect of other people, control, success.

• Do you often say, "If only" when you think about your children?  What comes after the "If only"?  This may reveal idolatrous desires that control your heart and skew your discipline.

• Is your home parent-centered or God-centered?

We will meet this Thursday February 23rd from 9.30 - 11.30am at 2/F Island ECC.  Refreshments and childcare provided.  Newcomers always welcome!